From the time we are little tikes the question is asked, ‘who do you want to be when you grow up?’ For most people, the answer changes and shifts as they grow, evolve and become young adults. For some folks, the answer changes a few times in adulthood too. There’s nothing wrong with that, there is never any judgment here. As long as the way you spend your life brings you joy and peace.
One of the biggest challenges in life that this causes is the way you identify after having “grown up.” You become your vocation and somehow your worth gets tied to that. While the way you spend your life certainly shapes who you are, that is not the only reason you are on this earth.
When I was young, I said I wanted to be a nurse because I like to help people. That is as true today as it was 20 years ago. The thing is, I do not have to be a nurse to help people. I could be a customer service rep or a bank teller and still be helping people. I could volunteer at the soup kitchen or the library and help people too. The point is my heart is filled when I am of service to others, but I can be of service in many ways beyond my job as a nurse (or a Wellness Coach and Intuitive Healer for that matter!).
When you begin to struggle with your life purpose, really dig deep into the activities that truly fill your heart with joy and bring you peace. Then realize that those things are flexible and fluid. See, at one time you just knew that Polly Pockets were the only thing that would bring you happiness and that phased into having your own phone, and that phased into getting married or a certain title in your career. In each stage of life, different activities brought you joy and peace. The way you spent your time at 12 is likely different than at 23 and different yet at 35. But at each stage of life, some activities filled your heart and soul.
If you are beginning to realize that you lack peace, joy, and happiness in your life now, it may be time for your activities to evolve. It may be time to seek something different that is in better alignment with who you are now. Maybe that means your time with a specific company is done. That might look like working less and spending more time with your family or traveling more often. That might look like volunteering at a nursing home instead of the grade school. That might look like more time alone in reflection, meditation, or prayer and less time with friends downtown.
You are always growing and evolving. Usually following a season of rest is a need for change. Embrace your change. Embrace your evolution. Be firm in your desire to seek peace, but flexible in the methods you use to find it. Variety is the spice of life, as they say. Your purpose on this planet is as multifaceted as you are.
If you’re feeling a little stuck right now, it may be time to reevaluate how you find peace. Let’s talk all about it in your Women’s Wellness Session.