As I always practice what I preach, after some thought and consideration, I will be taking a break from writing the blog. I'm not sure when I'll be back to writing, but the podcast will continue. Peace and wellness is always my goal, not just for you, but for myself too. Right now, I know that my time is best spent working with you as a client and recording episodes for the podcast. The time I will gain not writing the blog will be spent with my baby and on my physical health. Until then, may nothing less than love and light enter your space.
When I return to writing, if there's anything you'd like me to write about, comment below!
To round out Women’s History month let’s talk about birth control. Hormonal birth control is often prescribed to manage unpleasant menstrual cycle symptoms. In many circles, this is considered to be the only fix for irregular periods, heavy cramps and bleeding, and even acne. In truth, the added hormones from birth control do not fix any of these 'problems'. They may mask the symptoms or change the way the symptoms present, but the underlying issues still exist.
Remember, I am a nurse working in western medicine and a coach/healer working in alternative therapies as well. I find great value in both schools of thought. But seeing both worlds I also see the weaknesses of them. One weakness in western medicine is the lack of teaching about women's health.
I hear things like this time and time again, "they are a nurse, they should know that progesterone can cause constipation." Or "my Ob said the pill will make me regular" Or...
For years I have stood by the belief that to find true wellness, it is necessary to approach the journey with a multi-faceted plan. In honor of Women’s History Month, let’s discuss some herbs that have been passed down through the ages as helpful for all things female. Many herbs, foods, teas, etc can support women’s health. Today we’ll cover a few of my favorites. I am obligated to tell you, I do not prescribe or diagnose. This information is purely educational. It is up to you to do your own research and/or discuss with your providers before starting any new supplement regimen. With that out of the way, let’s get to it!
One of my personal favorites is an herb called Vitex (aka chaste berry). As early as 450 BC it was suggested by Hippocrates, and it is still recommended today for PMS and menopausal symptoms. Some research suggests that vitex helps to regulate the pituitary gland, so the signals it sends to the other glands allow the...
From the time we are little tikes the question is asked, ‘who do you want to be when you grow up?’ For most people, the answer changes and shifts as they grow, evolve and become young adults. For some folks, the answer changes a few times in adulthood too. There’s nothing wrong with that, there is never any judgment here. As long as the way you spend your life brings you joy and peace.
One of the biggest challenges in life that this causes is the way you identify after having “grown up.” You become your vocation and somehow your worth gets tied to that. While the way you spend your life certainly shapes who you are, that is not the only reason you are on this earth.
When I was young, I said I wanted to be a nurse because I like to help people. That is as true today as it was 20 years ago. The thing is, I do not have to be a nurse to help people. I could be a customer service rep or a bank teller and still be helping people. I...
Today is International Women’s Day. Can you believe we have an entire day that the whole world has devoted to celebrating women? Stop and think about that for a minute. In the United States, it was barely 100 years ago that women were finally respected enough to be allowed to vote. Following that came the ability to go to college, be the sole owner of property and be the only name on a bank account or credit card.
These changes did not happen THAT LONG AGO but for many, they are still just events of the past, not anything we truly experienced. No today, we experience a whole new variety of self-worth deterioration. Social Media.
The ability to compare your life to someone else's right now is as easy as picking up your phone. Videos, photos, podcasts, blogs, books, magazines, etc are all readily available with a few taps on your device. That means we have constant exposure to people’s opinions, stories, and lives. Albeit very short looks into...
Have you ever considered how often your children look to you? Looking for your approval, your guidance, your insight, and sometimes even your permission. Amongst all of that, they look to you as an example of how to live life. This includes everything from what to eat and drink, which part of their bodies to criticize, how to drive, how to handle conflict, how to regulate emotions, and on and on and on.
One of the most common reasons moms tell me they do not participate in self-care is because they feel selfish about taking time for themselves. In the same breath, I often hear them telling me that they hope their daughters grow up never feeling as burnt out and overwhelmed as they themselves feel. Very rarely though are these mamas showing their daughters how to prevent it in their own lives.
You've heard of the generational curse. This is kind of the same thing. I will do this because my mom did this. I will put myself last because my mom did too. I...
Can self-care be toxic?
A while back I came across a post where the author shared a belief that self-care was toxic. The gist of the opinion was that self-care was a blanket excuse for neglecting the responsibilities of adulthood, your marriage, and sometimes even your faith. While I respect every opinion, I don’t agree.
I don’t think self-care can be toxic. The definition of toxic is very harmful or unpleasant in a pervasive or insidious way.
The definition of self-care is the practice of taking an active role in protecting one's own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
You cannot protect your own well-being and happiness while participating in something harmful. It’s an oxymoron.
However, it is possible to use the term self-care as an excuse for harmful behaviors. Imagine this scenario:
“A glass of wine at the end of the day is your self-care… but sometimes that glass of wine...
Have you ever had a young child run across a room to hug you? Or maybe gifted a dandelion bouquet? Possibly you’ve received an extra wet kiss from a baby, or a half-eaten cookie as a gesture of sharing. And you have likely experienced a moment when a child just wanted your undivided attention. Sometimes these experiences are endearing. Sometimes they make you giggle internally and sometimes your very exhausted self is a little worn out by the behavior. But each of those behaviors is that child's way of loving you. Remember that each child is just a small adult. They create their communication styles early. The child who offers you a dandelion bouquet communicates their love through the language of gifts. The child who offers you wet kisses is communicating through physical touch and the one asking for your undivided attention is asking for quality time.
This concept is likely over the head of these children, but you will grasp it easily. To recap the five love...
Have you ever considered how mind-boggling it is that you even exist on this planet at this moment in time? That out of all the billions of cells that collide every day in the Universe, the perfect two met up and created you? And you were born to your specific parents, in a home that was exactly what you needed it to be, in a country that was exactly what you needed it to be, in an era that was exactly what you needed it to be. Your soul just as easily could have been born to a family on the other side of the world. Imagine how different your life would be then!
It’s kind of trippy, huh?
It’s REALLY trippy when you realize not just how blessed you are for having been brought into this moment in time, but that your kids were too. They chose you, Mama. They chose this life. They chose to be born to you and your partner when you were that exact age because they needed that version of you to learn their lessons on this trip to Earth.
Self-care, not selfish care
Moms often feel guilty for taking time for themselves. Even something as simple as buying new clothes for yourself can feel frivolous, yet you don’t blink an eye when you buy three new outfits for your kiddo. Even though they’ll grow out of it in a season when your clothes will be with you until they are unrecognizable. There is this mindset that putting yourself first, or honoring your own needs is selfish. It is unacceptable. It makes you a bad mom.
And that mindset is bogus.
First and foremost, you are a human being. You have the same basic needs as the humans you care for every day. You need to eat food, drink enough water, practice good hygiene, get good sleep, move your body, and feel safe and loved just the same as everyone else. But so often taking the time out of your day to do so, or asking for what you need causes guilt. My moms will even tell me that they don’t know what they need to feel...