You Don’t Have To Be Miserable

You don’t have to be miserable. It is so easy to get sucked into those feelings of despair, hopelessness, darkness, anxiety, and sadness. It is even easier to stay in that place. You know why? Because we often allow the thoughts that we have to keep us there. Because it is so much easier to fall than it is to get back up. Because we stay in the same pattern day in and day out.

Remember when we talked about vibration and how it affects your body? Falling into these patterns of darkness is allowing our bodies to vibrate at such a low, slow speed that we become miserable. Then it becomes a dark and twisty tunnel of negative thoughts, low-frequency foods, dark music, and TV, and before you know you have yourself convinced that your whole life is a wreck. You’re a wreck. You can’t do anything right... blah...blah...blah.

You do not have to live this way.

Again, for you in the back.

YOU. DO. NOT. HAVE. TO. LIVE. THIS. WAY.

You get to decide what thoughts are on repeat inside your head. You get to decide what music you listen to. You get to decide what you watch on TV, what foods you eat, and what clothes you wear. There are so many things in this world that are out of your control, but all of those decisions are yours to make.

Let’s change those thoughts on repeat. Abandon thoughts like, “I suck.” “I’m a failure.” “I can’t do anything right.” Adopt ones like “I am strong.” “I am worth it.” “I deserve good.” “I am capable.” Put on some upbeat-make-you-want-to-dance-and-sing-along kind of music. Moving your body, expressing your voice, and connecting to a vibration that is higher than your own helps you to raise your vibration so you can feel better. Same with TV; find a feel-good show, not ones that show you the horrors and heartbreaks of the world. Your clothes should make you feel good and show off your personality. You don’t have to wear a dress if you don’t want to. You don’t have to wear leggings if that isn’t your thing. You don’t have to wear baggie sweaters. Just find something that makes you feel good about wearing. Something you can put on and go, “damn. I look good in this.” Maybe it’s the color of the outfit, maybe it’s the style, maybe it's because it holds a good memory. Wear it. Eat something good for you. Your body most likely needs the extra vitamins/minerals in some fruit anyway. Drink your water. Take a bath or a long hot shower and while the water drains, imagine all your darkness washing away with it.

It is okay to let yourself feel good. You have to work at it. It is always harder to climb back uphill, but if you can do these things when you start to feel yourself slipping, you can avoid that dark and twisty place.

You don’t have to be miserable, just start with small changes and see how that changes your life. Allow nothing less than love and light into your space.

Please note, I’m not saying coming out of the depths of depression is this easy, this conversation is for those who are not yet depressed, but certainly not happy. However, if you do struggle with bouts of depression, pay attention, because all of this can help you stay out of that darkness.